Everyone knows my love of music, it is one of the few forces in addition to oxygen, sleep, food and prayer that keeps me going. I think the combination of powerful lyrics with a smooth melody can lull me into peace on the most volatile of days,
One of my favorites, is the song “Stand by You” from the Pretenders. The soul touching range of the lead singer’s voice, as she belts out the lyrics always calms and brings me a gentle peace. I am not sure what it is, but the idea of someone standing by me through my storms and celebrations, is always comforting.
For those people, like myself, who believe in God (or their own personal deity), the supernatural source of companionship and protection comes from Him. However there is also a need for a human factor. As we were not created to be completely alone, Adam lost a whole rib because he was lonely. I am sure he was quite capable of naming animals and eating from fruit trees alone. But the idea of being alone, no matter the perfection that surrounded him, was just too much. So if we are reflections of God, then shouldn’t we be that force on earth for others? Anyway I have digressed a bit.
Humans were just designed to be together. It does not mean that we all need to be coupled up and married; that life is not for everyone. And I am not suggesting that the people with strong criminal murderous tendencies should be left to roam around and play school yard games with our kids….I’m not that kind and loving. What I am suggesting is that everyone in some way or form needs someone else and needs to be there for another person. I am sure if I took the time I could find some type of study that shows that people are healthier when we are surrounded by positive and supportive relationships. Feel free to look for one, or even try to find one that says the opposite, I don’t mind.
Some of the lyrics of the song “Stand by You” include:
……When you’re standing at the cross roads, And don’t know which path to choose, Let me come along, ’cause even if you’re wrong
I’ll stand by you, I’ll stand by you, won’t let nobody hurt you, I’ll stand by you. Baby, even to your darkest hour, and I’ll never desert you, I’ll stand by you……
Those are powerful words. Those words can speak strength into a person. It lets them know that no matter what, someone will be there. That they are not expected to be perfect, or know everything. I mean have you ever felt the need to know everything, and not be allowed to make mistakes? That can be a tiring and daunting feeling. I know I have been placed in that situation a few times, it sucks. Knowing someone is willing to wipe my tears, or even stand next to me as I cry and scream, would have made those periods easier to bear.
So here my suggestion, stand by someone, be there for someone. It can be as simple as being a mentor, big brother/sister for a child or young person. Visit an elderly person, and let them talk about what they want to talk about (they have lived long and have a lotto talk about), volunteer at some type of community service/church activity. All of this will allow you to share your positive energy to others, who in turn will share theirs to others.