“When did ‘Why’ become the new F-word?” This question has been plaguing me for a few days… weeks… let’s be honest… it has bothered me for years! Even as a child, ‘Why’ was one of my favorite words, closely followed by ‘How’. But somewhere along the way, as I grew older, I started noticing that asking ‘Why’ was, in fact, regarded as a curse word. No longer was it seen as the terminology of a growing and inquisitive mind. To the contrary, it stood out…
By now many of you have seen (or at least have heard of) Beyonce’s Homecoming documentary movie on Netflix. If you haven’t seen it, you should. And yes, I am actually suggesting you take a moment to watch Netflix. Beyonce’s Homecoming is an in your face wake up call to many of us, and I highly recommend you view it. [Disclaimer: There are a few unnecessary curse words in the movie but that should not deter you from the messages Mrs. Carter and her excellent…
In life you are going to fall down. And by using the word ‘fall,’ I don’t mean a little stumble where you lose your balance for a millisecond. What I am referring to are the types of falls where your ego, emotions, finances, relationships and business drop so hard and so low that you taste the dirt. These are the type of failures and self-inflicted mistakes that make you rethink your whole existence while making you question if you are ever on the right path.
I have three daughters and I even though I can tell them that being a woman is a wonderful thing. Raising them to be strong, intelligent women and telling them that they can do anything in the world [though true] can be a bit misleading. And I cannot lie to them and say that being a woman is going to be an easy thing.
This weekend, as I looked over my goals for the month, my long-distance friend, Fear, decided to stop by for a visit. For a moment, my to-do-list resembled Goliath, and a feeling of defenselessness and paralysis gripped me. Fortunately, I was able to usher Fear out by employing tools that allow me to reevaluate the reality of my situation and regain perspective.
Starting over hurts…. moving on hurts…letting go hurts…growing hurts. To tell you that these periods in life will be fun-filled with colorful rainbows and fairy dust is to lie to you, and personally I prefer not to lie so early in the morning. In fact, I would rather rip the bandage off right now and let you know that change requires transparency, uncomfortable anguish and, in the beginning, you may even feel like you are going backward instead of forward.
If you have been on my Facebook page lately, you may have seen when I posted: “You so busy chatting and judging Eve, when you still have a couple of apple cores caught in your throat.” Now this post came from a place of frustration, but it is still true. People…people…it is 2019 and we must-by now-know better.
It’s the thought that counts.” And in this instance, this is true…the financial outlay should never matter. The attention, time and thought that goes into picking a gift is the real gift. However, if we are being honest with ourselves, we can admit that the presents we give are often more reflective of our own egos and not genuine affection or attention.