• Loyalty… Loyalty… Loyalty

    With relationships, there are always some things we try to hide—as if they don’t exist—in what I like to call our ‘emotional closets’. We do this while telling ourselves how things will get better and hoping for the situation to change. I am here to tell you that this is a bold face lie. Every incident and emotion you have swept into the closet only stays there and rots....and with all things that decay, the stink will come out.

  • Lessons from Wakanda

    February is now over, and I hope that by now most of you would have already gone out to watch the Black Panther movie [at least once]. Today, I am going to take a little moment to talk about it. Although I could use countless posts to discuss my love for the movie or spend hours debating the movie, the movement and what it means for everyone, there are countless bloggers who have already spoken about those aspects of the Black Panther and, I think, did it justice. If you want to get in-depth analysis and critique of the actors, the soundtrack, colors, setting, or the “thirst” [yes, I have…

  • Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    Though I knew homes that shared the never-ending support or the laughter that these tv shows depicted every week, behind closed curtains other homes substituted laughter and joy with bullying and verbal abuse. On the surface everything looked perfect to the average onlooker, but the sharp words exchanged, and the lack of real emotion and remorse would stay hidden under the family’s public persona, out of the view of their many guests or neighbors..... A home is supposed to be a nesting place — a place where ideas, personalities and bodies are fed and nurtured. It should represent a place where people who are joined together by blood and/or love…

  • Serve The Turkey & Not The Kids

    When the door opens and your friends, family, guests are about to walk up into your nest (I don’t care if it’s your momma, daddy or your boss/senator/minister/most important client, and if they are staying from Thanksgiving to New Years. I don’t really care if you live with them – the favor stays the same) … When you get ready to serve all your well-prepared edible delights to them... DO me the favor and DO NOT serve your children over to them on a golden or silver plate.

  • Sitting in a Hospital Chair

    So today I am in the hospital waiting for my mother to have an operation. We recently found out that her body has cancer [yes, I wrote that exactly the way I meant to write it, her body not her] and being the women who we are, staying down is not an option so we went into “fix this” mode, thus the operation. I haven’t really allowed the full impact of what cancer is and what it could do to take up permanent residence in my brain. My family had been blessed for a long time and were able to live on the outside of this disease for a while,…

  • When it just does not feel RIGHT

    I wonder how many of us live similar lives to this character. How many of us are surrounded by people who have accepted the roles that society have dished out and who try to break us into the pre described molds. Are we haunted with dreams/nightmares where we keep reaching out to a hidden image of ourselves, slightly out of reached, but blocked by negative energy, limitations and our own fears? I think that the path to self-discovery is not always paved with roses, sometimes there are boulders and detours along the way.

  • Taking a REAL Look into our Neighborhood and Homes

    Sometimes we are too busy living our lives and comparing ourselves to the “Jones”, to even see what is really occurring right in front of us. We tell ourselves that this couldn’t happen here, that this neighborhood is filled with “proper” people. We look at the news and read heart wrenching stories of abuse, molestation; and say how that could never happen in our homes and in our streets. But do we ever take a moment to really look at our streets and within our homes. Every home holds some form of secrets within its walls. We look at the outside, at the masked faces but we never really look…

  • Had to Filter my Words Today……ONE Vs HELP

    Disclaimer: Today I did not write how I feel, I filtered it, and then I put it in the sun, then I filtered my words again. This means that my thoughts may not always run together as smooth, but filtering does that sometimes. There will be times when I have to do this . I know the power of words and how they can create their own life force, so sometimes I have to be the responsible person and say things softly. Here goes: It is so easy for us to call the plumber, carpenter, fireman, doctor, police, even the veterinarians have 24 hour service. But yet we are afraid and even…