“When did ‘Why’ become the new F-word?” This question has been plaguing me for a few days… weeks… let’s be honest… it has bothered me for years! Even as a child, ‘Why’ was one of my favorite words, closely followed by ‘How’. But somewhere along the way, as I grew older, I started noticing that asking ‘Why’ was, in fact, regarded as a curse word. No longer was it seen as the terminology of a growing and inquisitive mind. To the contrary, it stood out as an undesirable form of rebellion. Thus, it had become the new ‘F’.
You are you, and your purpose is greater than just being a member of any flock. Your timing and route to finding your purpose should not be predetermined by those around you or by society’s rules. There is no perfect way for everyone. Your path and your timing may not make sense to everyone else, but just as they can’t breathe your breath for you, so too they shouldn’t define your life for you.
I think there is one thing that has a monumental impact on a person’s life and how they look at falling in love, and that is dealing with heartbreak. It can help shape and define how you see future relationships in either positive or negative way, and sometimes it can hold you back on letting go and embracing love again. Whether it be the loss of a loved one or a relationship breaking down, we tend to process them in very similar ways. There is a grief that holds us in the moment and we struggle to see how we can ever be the same. And I think in some…
I have pondered and pondered on what I would write about for 2018’s first blog post. I considered writing something real deep, bearing in mind all of the highs and lows of 2017. I considered something upbeat as a compass to where I would like 2018 to follow. Guess what? No matter how much I tried, the words in my head refused to behave and decided to come out the way they wanted to — with no real considerations to my feelings or my game plan. Life has been like that… it does what it wants when it wants and how it wants.
I don’t think it is right for me or anyone to make the decision on if someone’s past performance in one area of their life should be a decisive and defining factor when it comes to determining their future. Who are we to say that their past results may not have been based on motivational factors and surroundings
There will be many times when you will be in a similar position, you just won’t have enough resources, you may be in an environment where there are no mentors, supportive love ones or anyone who believes in you. You may have a dream where you feel ill-equipped and inexperienced to achieve your purpose. But guess what, you don’t have to be ready or have the resources or know the right people for God to do his work for you and through you. Stop thinking that miracles only happened in the Bible and for perfect people; go deep into the pages to find the truth.
We may make assumptions on where our paths are going to end up going, with our own crayon colored imaginary pictures of what we will be, what we will do and where we will be. But I have learned that I don’t really know jack, especially when it comes to assuming where my path is going. I am sure if I drew a map of where I started and drew [stick figures as everyone knows that I can’t really draw] my imaginary accomplishments and moments where I thought I would be at ….. It would resemble a nicely laid out Life game. But the joke was and has been on…
I started thinking about the roles/characters that we play in our lives and tried to compare them to what we play for others. Somehow there always appears to be some disconnect between the two and the discrepancy didn’t seem to reconcile as we grow older, but instead grow wider.