Human beings have always preferred to stay away from risk and the unknown unless we are pushed there by some uncontrollable force. We prefer to hold on to the safety of what we have tested, and what we know is consistent. This surety may be as tasteless, lackluster, and unrewarding as some of your… [Sorry I had to hold back on my choice of words there.
By now many of you have seen (or at least have heard of) Beyonce’s Homecoming documentary movie on Netflix. If you haven’t seen it, you should. And yes, I am actually suggesting you take a moment to watch Netflix. Beyonce’s Homecoming is an in your face wake up call to many of us, and I highly recommend you view it. [Disclaimer: There are a few unnecessary curse words in the movie but that should not deter you from the messages Mrs. Carter and her excellent production company brought to the screen.] Here are my three takeaways from this movie...
If you have been on my Facebook page lately, you may have seen when I posted: “You so busy chatting and judging Eve, when you still have a couple of apple cores caught in your throat.” Now this post came from a place of frustration, but it is still true. People…people…it is 2019 and we must-by now-know better.
It’s the thought that counts.” And in this instance, this is true…the financial outlay should never matter. The attention, time and thought that goes into picking a gift is the real gift. However, if we are being honest with ourselves, we can admit that the presents we give are often more reflective of our own egos and not genuine affection or attention.
With it being the holiday season, a lot of people are already proclaiming [predictably] that they are getting ready for their fresh start in 2019. Past mistakes are all being wiped away and they are walking to the starting gate, ready to jump into the next year with no connection to their previous setbacks or blunders—a clean slate. No insult or shade to anyone, but I do not want a Fresh Start. I don’t want a do-over. I want to be able to take the experiences and lessons from my past with me to motivate and provoke me to move forward.
You are you, and your purpose is greater than just being a member of any flock. Your timing and route to finding your purpose should not be predetermined by those around you or by society’s rules. There is no perfect way for everyone. Your path and your timing may not make sense to everyone else, but just as they can’t breathe your breath for you, so too they shouldn’t define your life for you.
I was not interested in most fairytales as I found them unrealistic, and depending on someone else to rescue me and save me – that just did not make sense to me. I mean think about it, what if the prince for Snow White had gotten lost, would she have had to stay with that piece of apple all up in her throat for years and years just because the dwarfs never learned the Heimlich maneuver? And what if Rapunzel had dry hair and split ends? Does that mean that her prince would have ripped her hair and never got to climb up to her window?
The truth be told it was actually quite simple…I felt overly judged in many other parts of my life. I couldn’t bare having to defend or relinquish this part of me as some untrained or unsympathetic soul maliciously ripped my words apart. So rather than expressing and sharing them, I kept them hidden – selfishly but truly defensively. You see, as simple as it may appear to anyone reading this, the ability to play with and twist words is a gift. But I did not always see it in its true form. I just thought that it was something that I did. It wasn’t something that I trained to do.…