• Lifting & Raising

    Before we start today’s blog post, let me put the disclaimer out early… Disclaimer: I am going to upset some women with this post. Some of you are going to get all defensive, and I know many of you are going to roll your eyes, give real side eye and suck your teeth. I knew all of this before I decided to write on this topic. But guess what… I don’t really care. It is not about you, Boo. It’s about all of us as a people/our human existence. At the end of the day, I am always going to write my truth with the full understanding that there isn’t…

  • Forgiveness is Not a Gift

    A few months back, I wrote a blog post about forgiveness and how important it was. And though I promised myself to write part two, I just couldn’t. Writing for me is very personal and even when I try not to, parts of me still get engrained into my words, which made writing on forgiveness near impossible. I understood the forgiveness theory and yes, I guess I could have tied and twisted words together and made it pretty, but that is not my style. I believe that words are powerful, and they hold strength, so if I can’t give it to you straight and honestly I am not going to…

  • The Nine Days That My Breast Stood Still (Part Two)

    I was not going to focus on the end, but I was going to focus on what I was willing to do with whatever time I would have [days/weeks/months/years] and still try to encourage and inspire others. You may think that this is not a possible or realistic mindset, and I am okay with you thinking that [kind of]. I understand that everyone is different. But I am comfortable enough in my relationship with God, and I know that he is in control. My purpose on this earth and my destiny is really to do what he wants me to do. When that purpose is complete, I will be going…

  • The Nine Days That My Breast Stood Still (Part One)

    Everything was going well… I liked my new doctor from “hello,” my medical history was logged down and I was quite comfortable with all the tests being done. Then somewhere between what should have been the ‘everything looks good’ phrase and me leaving his office, there was a quick “hmmm...” You know those moments that, if you are not super attentive and observant to people’s body language and voice patterns, you could miss? Yes, this was one.

  • Lessons from Wakanda

    February is now over, and I hope that by now most of you would have already gone out to watch the Black Panther movie [at least once]. Today, I am going to take a little moment to talk about it. Although I could use countless posts to discuss my love for the movie or spend hours debating the movie, the movement and what it means for everyone, there are countless bloggers who have already spoken about those aspects of the Black Panther and, I think, did it justice. If you want to get in-depth analysis and critique of the actors, the soundtrack, colors, setting, or the “thirst” [yes, I have…

  • I Sometimes Get These Moments

    I sometimes get these moments, days and even weeks where my words fight for release. And to any writer that may sound like a good thing, but to be honest, it isn’t always a great feeling and sometimes it can be very intense. The thing is, even though my words are trying to break free, my mind understands the repercussions of that freedom and it tries its best to hold them in. It knows that with each post written, each chapter prepared, each article or interview done, there would be more transparency to who I am and the evolution that is part of the growth process

  • Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    Though I knew homes that shared the never-ending support or the laughter that these tv shows depicted every week, behind closed curtains other homes substituted laughter and joy with bullying and verbal abuse. On the surface everything looked perfect to the average onlooker, but the sharp words exchanged, and the lack of real emotion and remorse would stay hidden under the family’s public persona, out of the view of their many guests or neighbors..... A home is supposed to be a nesting place — a place where ideas, personalities and bodies are fed and nurtured. It should represent a place where people who are joined together by blood and/or love…